Parents - Discuss Your Teens Cell Phone and Computer Use

What rules do you have about cell phone and computer use?

Are they working?

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I’d love to hear what you have to say about your teens use of their cell phone and computer.  What rules do you have for your teen?  Are they working?

Just scroll down and post your comment below… I’d be glad to answer any questions you have at all!


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2 Responses to “Parents - Discuss Your Teens Cell Phone and Computer Use”

  1. Angela says on October 26th, 2008 at 11:27 am :

    We have a 14 year old daughter, she lies, and doesn’t seem to care. She lied right ot my face Friday night not to get the consequences and still be able to sleep over her friends. She mentioned she does’t want to grow up. HELP>

  2. Mark Hughes says on November 5th, 2008 at 2:09 am :

    Angela,

    Two things. Both of them are assumptions. I ask you to honestly reflect on both of them and respond to what I am about to say.

    First, I would ask you to consider how you respond to her when she is honest with you on topics that concern you or upset you and set you off in either rage, lecturing, punishing, etc. If we want our kids to be honest, we can’t dictate how and what they say to us. We have to offer an environment that supports honesty without unreasonable consequences. At this point, if there are consequences, good luck on getting her to open up to you and tell the truth. You have to decide if you would prefer her to tell the truth or remind her again and again who is the boss… sorry, when it gets to this point, guess who is the boss. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying there are not consequences in life but how they are administered is crucial.

    Secondly, if you have given her much of what she wanted when she was younger, she is just living out what she knows. Now that the stakes are higher, she is just holding firm to what she knows. Unreasonable or not, if she is indifferent to consequences and makes claims she doesn’t want to grow up, you have a child that has possibly been “over entitled” and “pampered with lots of self endulgement” and now you will need to bring the balance back…and that will be challenging.

    Before I go into some solutions, I would like you to respond and let me know if I am close or way off base. Your honesty here is what will set you free and bring back the daughter you once had.

    Looking forward to hearing from you.

    Mark Hughes

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